Hey love

This one’s for my girlies
My single girlies
And the ones in a relationship quietly wondering
“Is this really it?”

Because trust me
I’ve been there
Questioning everything
Even when it looked fine on the surface

This year I’ve been dating again
As a single 32-year-old woman
with a business
a vision
a body that doesn’t lie
and a whole lot more clarity than I had in my twenties

And I met someone
Someone who completely exploded my understanding of what it means to feel seen
held
respected
chosen

His communication was top-tier
He planned dates
Sent flowers
Tuned into what I loved
He showed up
Consistently
Softly
Powerfully

And my nervous system?
Didn’t know what to do with it

It was too safe
Too easy
Too kind
I found myself questioning it all

Why is he doing this?
What does he want?
Is this real?
Is this safe?

Turns out
My body wasn’t used to love that didn’t hurt a little

And here’s the part that surprised me most

He wasn’t my person
That became clear
Because even though he was showing up
my gut was whispering
And eventually
I listened

But I believe he came into my life for a reason
To rewire me
To remind me what’s possible
To set a new standard
for what I will and won’t accept moving forward

Because that version of love — the safe kind
the communicative kind
the consistent kind
That’s the bare minimum now

No more breadcrumb energy
No more almosts
No more over-explaining my needs

And no
you don’t need a man to complete you
But you do get to raise your standard for how you want to be met

So if you’re in the dating world
Or sitting beside someone wondering if this is really love
I want to leave you with this:

Is your nervous system calm — or constantly contracting?
Do you feel safe — or like you’re always trying to earn your place?
Are you explaining what you need — or simply receiving it?

You deserve love that doesn’t make you question your worth
You deserve to be held without having to break first
You deserve to be met where you are
Not where they want you to shrink to

And if someone comes along
and changes the way you see love
but isn’t your person
That’s okay too

Not all soulmates stay
Some show up to raise your frequency
to crack your heart open
to set the new standard

And that?
Is f*cking sacred

With love
M x